Why Men Will Never Understand Womenfeatured

I have always trusted that great relationships lead to the greatest of friendships. At some point, your partner becomes your best friend that you trust more than any other human in the world. You start to share everything, from how you feel to what you what you want for your future, conversations become deeper as does the soulful connection between two.

I have been in a few long-term relationships. I had the puppy-love high school sweetheart, the volatile college boyfriend, and the sweet adult love of my life. I regret none, not even the volatile one. I learned bits and pieces from each type of man. There is one snippet of knowledge that I missed the entire time.

No matter how hard men try to please women, no matter how much they love and care for them on a deeper level, no matter how much they protect them and try their best to take their troubles away, men will never be able to fully understand women.

I don’t care who you are or what kind counseling you go to, men and women are forever wired differently. Yes, opposite sexes can do their best to try to see the other’s perspective but the perspective will never be exactly the same. Each has an entirely different lens of the world that stands before them.

Simply put, a boy will never be a girl. Women like to relive their emotions when they tell a story. If they were mad at the time they revisit the frustration. If they were hurt, they tend to feel the pain as they retell the story. It is how they deal. They have to lay it out so that the listener can help them work through the clutter of emotion that exists within their heart.

When women speak with other women they can easily dissect every part of the others story and unravel every level of emotion to try to figure out the meaning of each situation.

Women seek out other women to analyze situations and try to uncover truths. They come up with solutions but only after they have thought of every emotional aspect of a situation.

Men speak a different language. They don’t have to work out emotions. They think logically and calculated. They analyze facts and come up with viable solutions based on those facts. When it comes to speaking to women, they wear a tool belt the entire time.

When a woman is in pain, a man will hand her a wrench to fix it. When a woman is mad, a man will hand her a hammer to get rid of it. When a woman is confused, a man will hand her a screwdriver to secure the truth and move forward.

Men don’t want to relive emotions with women counterparts. They want to take all pains and insecurities away in the best way that they possibly can-by fixing. They don’t this by listening to pain, they do this by being strong foundational support systems. They don’t like to analyze every word said or every emotion felt, they want to grow callouses that will allow them to work harder than ever to reach real goals.

So when a woman runs over to a male partner crying, the man will literally grab a tissue to wipe away her tears. As she relives the pain, he might soothe her by giving her the warmest of hugs. He will do everything in his power to just make the crying stop. He will not dissect every emotional aspect of the situation, his goal is to simply stop his sweetheart from crying in any way that he possibly can.

And although women love comfort, one thing that is the most comforting to them is working through emotions. No matter how hard women try, men weren’t put in their lives for that purpose. Other women were. Women are wired similarly in the sense that they feed off emotion. Men simply are not.

No woman should expect their boyfriend or husband to be their best girl friend. The male was wired to be a protector and a fixer of all things. He wears his tool belt at all times to help anyone and everyone he possibly can-especially his love.

While women can share their woes with their men, they should never expect them to relive too many negative emotions with them. Of course, partners will share moments of joy and accomplishment when it comes to their relationship life, but boyfriends should never be confused for girlfriends.

If you’re looking for a solution, tell your man. If you’re looking to work through random icky emotions, tell your women. It is as simple as that.

Men don’t understand what to do when women hand them a platter of emotion as they will simply try to take the pain away with their handy tools. Women serve as counselors to each other as they often can see through a similar lens.

Just as men might never understand women, women might never understand men and that is okay. Both sexes can try their best and simply love each other through it all. At the end of the day the differences are what make partnerships a whole.

Love Always and Forever,

Karen

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